Thank YOU! THANK YOU!!! Now, go read this:
http://peachfarmerswife.blogspot.com/2008/09/excuse-me.html
I get so sick of "How's the sex life coming along?" Ok, they never say that, but I still think that sums it up pretty well. In my personal situation, I got married at, yes, a very young age. At the time we were "too young to get married," and yet it only took about 4 months for those doom and gloom people to start asking if I had gotten pregnant on my honeymoon. Again, a (this time only slight) paraphrase. Who's logic are they using? If I'm too young to begin building a lifelong relationship/commitment with a man, then how in this world am I ready to raise a child with him? Or at all, for that matter? If I am incapable of having a relationship, what are the reasons? Is it immaturity? Undeniably, yes. If this is so, then how am I going to raise a child up and teach h(im/er) maturity? It's not possible. Oh, and yes, I know what comes next. "Well, you can't wait until you're ready. You'll never be ready." Really? Cuz I could argue that, too. For the sake of time, though, I'll stay on subject and simply argue that you're taking what I said completely out of context. I didn't say, "When everything's perfect and when we're mature enough, we'll have children." I don't think that. Not at all. I simply asked why people think that they know what you should do, when you should do it, and even how, if you catch my drift. My point is the same as Nichola's. Mind your own beeswax! Let people make their own lives unique. Your misfortune may make someone else's life heavenly. Likewise, your fortune may be their hell on earth. Oh, and just one more tidbit...I know people who are having trouble getting pregnant. No, I'm not talking about Kendle and I. I saw that look on your face. But here's the deal, pressure from family and friends is very hurtful. Imagine every time you get a cold people are teasing you about being pregnant. It happens to me, yes. I laugh it off. But some wish they were and you're hurting their feelings. Lay off a bit. Let people have sex (or not, if they prefer) without you sticking your head around the corner to see what's going on. (see, I didn't say anything mean there, but I really thought about it.) If I'm being too graphic forgive me. It's my blog. Bug off! Feel free to comment. By the time I read your comment my steamy mood will be long gone and I won't tear you to shreads. Promise.
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Glad you liked the post...
I liked some of your thoughts as well.
That is another one of my gripes. "Oh, they are so young..." Compared to what or who? So, just what is the age that is "okay" or "perfect" to get married? If you wait too long then there is concern that "they have just been single so long. How will they adjust?" Give me a break!
BTW, back on the too young thing...
Paul said that it was better to marry than to burn with lust. Hmm. Don't hear much of that, do we? Maybe some of these "kids" whose bods are mature would be more careful if there was marriage just ahead, or maybe they would just be plain happier to be married and having their needs met in a stable relationship. (Talking about mostly Christian kids here, although if a non-Christian were in a committed monogamus relationship I think the same would be true.) But, instead, parents put their girls on the pill, and make sure the guys have condoms and say, "There, go have some fun befor you 'grow up'."
*Gagging*
Show it to me in the Bible, please. I would really like to know where it is...
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